3, error contrast psychology
The man often put his strengths and weaknesses of the girlfriend, compared with the girlfriend or weak points and others strengths compared. The man in the beginning and you contact, can quickly find your advantages and appreciate, your relationship will line up. But if he found the advantages of your body it is so small, for you will be cold, and this cold, and often make you dark horse can even be a temptation, the more you are mysterious.
Contact (contact) in gestalt therapy is contributed to the fields, growth and change the necessary condition. When we and the environment at contact, change is inevitable happened. Contact is through the see, hear, smell, touch and move other ways to achieve. In good contact with others naturally means to interaction, but still do not break its personal individual feeling. Individuals for adaptation to the environment is a constantly changing and creative process (M.P olster, 1987), and to the environment and effective contact with the first condition of the perceived is keen, full of energy and self expression ability (Zinker, 1978). Poll: frost to think more contact is growing vitality, it may be a fountain with strong interest, the imagination and creativity, but this form of contact but exists only in the moment. So, is the right way to think about not only contact with the environmental problem, and the level of the contact to pay attention to the achievement of the last state, especially in contact, often need to finish after some form of retreat to integrate experience of things.
4, conform to the excited psychology
The men are usually like modern, keen perception, but lack of autonomy and self-confidence, the individual consciousness by outside trend or so, especially like trendy women. To cummer dress up, hair style, clothing, pay attention to appearance and are happy to be in this respect for his girlfriend investment. However, once you can't adapt to his "aesthetic" requirement, he will complain that not only.
5, than emotional moves into the psychological
This man evaluation, treats the girlfriend, no sympathy, not put yourself in to give evaluation and understanding. Especially when his girlfriend in a difficult situation needs love move with her, they retreat or ignored. He can only and you were happy and can't and hardness.
When you find your boyfriend any of the above-mentioned a psychological there, don't take it lightly. Of course, strictly speaking, any male or more or less will always have the worry to one or more of. This also don't panic, the more not necessary that she "ties" that you can never find the best partner.
In the gestalt of the idea, pay special attention to energy (the issues, including energy) : it where? How to use? And how to be set back, etc. Energy was hampered is also resist contact another form. It may appear in the body parts of tension. For example, through the position transformation, the body shaking, and tense, and people speaking to look elsewhere, tone anomaly, etc, but that is just a very few examples.
